Why Don’t People Grow?

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One of the fundamental rules in problem solving is that you rarely come up with a solution until you understand the cause.  Whenever I’m working with people I try to get to the root before I change the fruit.  There is a reason why and discovering it, is half the battle!  After decades of working with achievers I’ve discovered 5 fundamental reasons why people don’t grow:

  • They don’t “think” they need to grow:  When you know it all, you disqualify yourself for further information. What area of expertise do you need more knowledge in?
  • They don’t see their future clearly:  Your future is something that you grow into.  What is your end game?
  • They fear the changes they will have to make:  If you’re unwilling to change you cannot grow.  What are you willing to give up?
  • They refuse to get input from outside sources:  You can learn alot by studying those around you.  Who knows what you need to know?
  • They are never shown the areas they need to grow in.  You can’t change what you can’t see.  Who can give you the feedback you need?

Asking yourself these 5 key questions keeps you in a “growth zone”.  It focuses your mind to keep expanding and pushing the walls of your “comfort zone”.  I’ve seen that comfort many times is the enemy to growth.  Always remember:  You cannot become what you need to be by remaining who you are!

The Heart Directs the Hand!

I’m preparing this week to facilitate a workshop at Restoration Church in Spartanburg, SC.  I’ve done hundreds of these learning events across the country and I’m jazzed to be able to host one in my own backyard!

One of the great takeaways from this training is always the unique Passion Process.  Many people spend their lives trying to find out what has grabbed them and in just one day we’re able to help people get clarity on their passions and core drivers.  Frequently, focus can’t be achieved alone because when you are emotionally attached to the outcomes in your life, your clarity becomes cloudy.

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Why do you need to grow?

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I spent today in Pennsylvania with New Castle Lawn and Landscape and I was asked the question, “Why do I have to grow?”  People normally discover that even though they say they want to grow, they don’t understand the price they have to pay to grow.  There is no growth without change and there is no change without pain.  This is why people usually grow only to their pain tolerance.  Many times I’m called in to assess personal capacity and one of the main questions I ask myself is, “How much pain is this person able to endure?”  Not a fun question, a valuable one to ask ourselves.

The critical reason is summed up in the phrase I call OUT-IN-OUT

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Manage Your Energy not Time

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This weekend I re-read The Power of Full Engagement.  Go buy it!  Here are a couple of quick ideas that I gleaned from the book:

  • Managing time is no guarantee we will bring sufficient energy to what we’re doing.  Time is simply the opportunity to spend energy!  The key question is: How much energy do we invest in the time we have? Read more…