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  • What do you demand of yourself?
  • You never make a change unless you make a demand on yourself.
  • Whatever you demand of yourself is what you accomplish.

1.  You lose focus

  • The reason people fail is broken focus.
  • How do you focus on your goals? Do you put them before you?
  • Whatever you give attention to, you’ll have energy for.
  • You only live life once, but if you live it right, once is enough.

2. You don’t become the person you need to become

  • Personal growth has little to do with time.
  • You won’t change on the outside if you don’t change on the inside.
  • Your inputs determine your outputs.
  • Being is always greater than doing.
  • Your present lifestyle is determined by what’s inside of you.
  • Be a big person and you’ll do big things.
  • As your ability and awareness increases, you will increase.
  • Nothing makes a better impression on other people than managing yourself.
  • Motion is generated by emotion.
  • If you don’t value yourself you won’t value your time.
  • Many people live busy but unproductive lives.
  • Do you have a stop doing list?
  • What’s the one thing today that I need to do to move my business forward?
  • The enemy of effectiveness is busyness.
  • Your mind gives back to you, what you put into it.
  • If I can’t lead myself, others don’t follow me.

3. You don’t have a big enough why

  • How clear is your why?
  • When it’s clear to you, you can communicate it clearly
  • If people don’t buy into your why, they won’t do your how.
  • Your why is your motivation.


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Be Aware

  • Knowing is the enemy of learning.
  • If you’re not aware of a problem, you’ll never reach for an answer.
  • When you’re aware of the needs in your life, then you’ll know what answers to look for.
  • What do you need to know more about?

Be Teachable

  • Your answers are either in a book or a person.
  • Anything you want, is something someone has already done.
  • Find the person that’s where you want to be and find out how they got there.

Be Disciplined

  • You must have a plan for learning.
  • Many people believe in success but few plan for it.
  • The power of your life is in the plan of your life.
  • When you take charge of your learning you take charge of your life.

Be Curious

  • Learners are always asking questions.
  • He who asks the questions controls the conversation.
  • People won’t give you advice unless you ask for it.

motivationYou can’t fix anyone

“Dennis, can you come for a day and just fix our people?”  This is the tragic question I get asked frequently.  Truthfully I can’t fix anyone and neither can you.  In fact, I barely can get our dog, Allie, to go to the bathroom outdoors.  If I can’t control my dog, why would I try to control another person?  Trying to control others is one of the core barriers in building a high-trust, high-performance culture.  Unfortunately it’s a tragic mistake many leaders make.

You need to motivate not fix

The underlying issue is motivation.  As leaders we want a high-performance team so we spend our time trying to motivate them either by a reward or a reprimand.  It’s the classic carrot and stick model of leadership that doesn’t work in today’s business environment.  When we use this method we’re treating our team like children.  We tell our kids, “If you’re good in the store, I’ll buy you a candy bar.”  We tell our sales team, “If you hit this goal, I’ll buy you something.”  Not much difference.

Different people are motivated different ways

To create a high-trust, high-performance team we need to motivate people how they want to be motivated, not how we like to be motivated.  One mistake I see is that when a leader is motivated by money, they create financial incentives as motivation.  Then they wonder why some people are not excited about this program. Different people are encouraged different ways.  People do things for their own reasons, not ours.

How to discover someone’s motivation

Motivation is birthed out of motive.  A person’s motive is their reason for why they do what they do.  To create a high-trust, high-performance team, one of your main roles as a coach is to discover your team’s personal reasons for why they do what they do.  Motivation is personal, not a company program.  To discover their motivation continue to ask, “Why?”  When you discover a person’s why, you’ve tapped into their essence.  You’ve uncovered the secret to motivating them.

What can you do today, to discover someone’s motivation?